One of the issues you face is processing the events in your life. In each of you from childhood expect there to be some sense of fairness in life. You expect everyone will be dealt an even hand. This is really an impossible expectation for God to accomplish. Each of you has a unique path to follow in your journey. Some suffer greatly, others avoid suffering, some experience great loss, others avoid grief, some live in material ease, others face a life of financial struggle, some have good health, others experience pain and physical suffering. This is the nature of life. This creates a crisis for the false self. The need for control and to manage things will fail. The True Self is submitted to the creator. It can accept whatever occurs and lean the light of His presence to make it through the darkness. This does not remove the suffering and impact of events. It does provide the needed resources to make it through anything.
You like everyone around you experience things that defy explanation. Lewis B Smedes in his book, “Forgive and Forget; Healing the Hurts we do not Deserve” says that these events are deep, personal, and unfair. These things often have a lifelong impact on your life. The question of WHY is a part of this process. It is not really a profitable exercise, but it is a natural and normal part of the process. There is often no satisfactory answer for these events. Cancer or some other terminal disease is never fair. It is always tragic and full of suffering. Accidents and There is no logic or predictability about life generally. While you attempt to manage your life, so many things are out of your control. Your task is impossible in the end. There are many reasons that things occur. You may be a victim of your own choices (or not). You may be the victim of the choices of another. Regardless of the cause, you can count on His presence. You cannot manage your life like a project at work. You must learn to respond in a healthy way to whatever occurs. In moments of crisis and unpredictable events you can count on God’s character and presence. He will be with you. He will never leave you or forsake you. This promise is repeated multiple times in His word. Each of you are on a different journey, but his promises are relevant no matter what. But as a spoke of earlier, it is not managed or fair. You are promised in Hebrews 4:16 “grace and help in time of need”. So while your quest for fairness is destined to fail, His presence will stand with you in your journey. That is something that you can count on.